What the?

October 22, 2008

So my favorite godmother dropped by this evening to get some durian from Mum. Her visit was a brief one, not even more than 10 minutes. She was just literally going to pick up her durian. Anyway, it’s her birthday tomorrow and she’s turning 56. She’s still single. Her friends and colleagues have always hounded on her to get married, telling her that they’re anxious for her. My perception is that she hasn’t found Mr. Right, but has made peace with it and moved on. She’s happy being alone, at least in my perception, but is tired of everyone bugging her about it.

Out of nowhere, she asked me jokingly when I was getting married, and I told her politely that not in the near future. Then she told me that I should get married no matter what. What the? I wanted to tell her all my musings about weddings and marriage and all that shit, but I guess that would require a private conversation between the two of us and gallons of coffee. Is she actually affected by this ‘peer pressure’ put on her and is subtly ‘lashing out’ on me? This time, I’m more amused than irritated. You see, when somebody asks me about marriage, especially if that person and I aren’t close, I think it’s none of their business, really.

In this day and age, I find it amusing that some people still have old-school mentality about marriage. And frankly, I feel sorry for those people who still think that the end goal in life is to get married and have babies. I’m smart enough to know that marriage is a big undertaking and should not be rushed and should be thought of thoroughly. I empathize with those who are looked down by other people because they’re still single (and getting older). Really, there’s nothing wrong with that. If a person is happy by himself, for godssakes, let him be.